Thursday News – Children and The Loss of a Pet

I snagged this article from CNN. You can see it in its original format here.

Editor’s note: A giant panda cub born to the National Zoo’s Mei Xiang was found dead Sunday. After the excitement surrounding the cub’s birth, it may be difficult to explain to a child the sadness surrounding its death. Parenting.com offers advice on how to talk to a child about the death of a pet or beloved animal.

Three-year-old Julian Lomax of Coatesville, Pennsylvania, picked out his first pet — a long-haired brown-and-white guinea pig — all by himself.

Snoop’s cage was in Julian’s room, and the preschooler fed him and cared for him. But a year later, Snoop died suddenly, and Julian was shocked and heartbroken.

Losing a pet might be your child’s first experience with death. Here’s how to help him through it:

Tell him the truth. Saying his dog was “put to sleep” or “went away” is confusing, not comforting. Better to say, “Rufus died, and that means we won’t see him anymore.” Be prepared to repeat yourself: Preschoolers need reminding that death is permanent.

Answer his questions. By listening and responding, you can show you care how he’s feeling. Just try to keep your answers short so your child can process what you’ve said, says Jonathan Pochyly, Ph.D., a child psychologist at Children’s Memorial Hospital in Chicago.

Reassure and console him. If your child starts to worry about other loved ones dying, you can tell him that most people don’t die until they’re very old. Pochyly suggests using a ruler to help kids compare the length of a dog’s life (an inch) to a human’s (a foot). And give him all the hugs he needs.

Remember your pet. Talk about what you loved about him, draw pictures, and look at photos together. It’s not prolonging the pain — it’s a great way to help your child learn that death is sad but life goes on. And when you decide your family is ready for another pet, you can remind your child that it isn’t a replacement but a new friend to love.

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2 responses to “Thursday News – Children and The Loss of a Pet

  1. Lots of wisdom here…for anyone of any age that loses a beloved pet. I’ll be stashing this post away for future reference. Thanks ❤

  2. You’re quite welcome. I find that children understand a heck of a lot more than I thought they did. I understand that some things have to be softened up or simplified, but honesty seems the best policy. Thanks for reading!

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